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Imagine if there was no “I” at your school.

That would also mean, no me, no mine, and no my – not even a you, or a your, or theirs.

Only a WE.

What would your school look like?

What would it look like from your perspective as principal? 

For a start you wouldn’t say that this was “your’ school”, or “my school” …. Instead it would always be our school. That’s not a hard place to start. 

There would never be problems over ownership – they couldn’t be yours, or mine, but only ours. I wonder if this would make things easier? Would this lead to the problem being judged and not the person? Or would this lead to problems never going away in a mountain of unaccountability?

Stay with me a little longer. 

School resources wouldn’t or couldn’t be selfishly hoarded because there would never be a, “Hey! That’s mine!”, or a “I bought that out of my budget”.

Would this lead to people looking after things haphazardly, or would they care more?

On the face of it this seems like just a simple change in language. But how could this simple change define your school? 

Time would be ours and no one would mind if they took up your time or if you took up theirs. Our time would always be ours. Would this lead to more time wastage? Or would it lead to things taking the time that they always needed and warranted?

And what about that little kid, sitting over there? The one who can’t read and who gets so frustrated that she kicks, bites and spits. She would rightly be our problem. Would she even be a problem at all? Should she ever have been seen as a problem in the first place? Would the Ministry of Education see her as your problem, or would they see her as a human who rightly needs to be supported?

I wonder what trust would look like? If there was just a we, and there was always just a we, then what trust could ever be broken?

Much of trust is you and me orientated. I trust you not to put me in the shit, and you trust me not to do the same. If you break that trust, or maybe it’s me, then where does that put us? If there’s no you and me, just a we, then where does that put us?

And what about well being?

We collectively look after each other without judgement. There’s no “he’s not coping” sort of comments. There’s just a we are in this together. 

And learning? Recently I found myself sitting in my Te Ahu te Reo course, and I wondered, what if I looked at my me learning, as I sat there responding very much as an individual, as a we learning experience instead? And I imagined what it would be like if everyone else in the class also looked at it as a solely we learning experience. How would that feel as a learner?

Of course having just a system where everything is a we could be akin to an ant colony. We shouldn’t be leading schools where everyone and everything is done at the beck and call of one being, or one overarching reason.

The goal I guess, as principals and leaders in our schools, is to build our cultures where both we and me/I can flourish side by side. Our role is to get this mix just right, the Goldilocks mix as I like to call it, so that the beauty of humanity can shine. Our humanity. 

Too much we, and our schools can be stifling; too much I and our schools become isolated egos all fighting for attention.

In our schools we deal with multiple approaches and multiple personalities. Somehow we are able to magically sprinkle fairy dust through our classrooms, playing fields and staffrooms, and we are able to take this seething horde of humanity and make it all work together and collaborate – like a WE. Wow, think about that for a minute – that’s quite an achievement.

As an individual you get to bring your own flair, creativity and identity to the kura and this should never be underestimated. 

But the best place to start, is to begin with the we/our…. as in “this is our school”. 

Imagine that.

Steve

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Growing up, my Dad had lots of great advice for me. Two pieces have stuck with me through thick and thin. One he pulled out for the first time during our very first time playing golf together (and last as well now that I think of it). As he swung backwards and forwards wildly missing the little dot of a ball at every sweep, he yelled out mysteriously, “There’s method in my madness!”.

At the time I was about 18 and I’d never heard that saying before. I really thought he was as crazy as his swing. 

Over time I’ve learnt to recognise my own method in my madness, in particular in things that I do in my professional life. Case in point when it comes to taking a look at things that get me down as a principal and I find myself taking a close look at my character.

Which leads me nicely to the second thing he used to say. Invariably whenever I had stumbled, which was often, he would say; “Don’t worry Steve, it’s character building”.

Again, because he was my Dad, and I was just young, I had no idea what he meant.

Again as I’ve stumbled my way through principalship, his words have taken on a new meaning.

Even more so, recently, when I heard an addition to my Dad’s saying:

“Personality is what we see when times are good, character is what we see when times aren’t so perfect”

In recent times this has resonated with me. I’ve seen fellow principals and leaders find themselves in times of trouble and mistakes have been made. I’m not immune to this. Every time I make a mistake, put a foot wrong, or find myself in trouble it’s not my personality that will get me through. It’s my character.

Your character is often you at your rawest. Interpreting what that means to you can be confronting! Especially at 3:00am.

Knowing your character is one thing, but understanding it is another thing altogether. 

Epictetus, a first century philosopher, once said, “people feel disturbed not by things, but by the views they take of them”.  Put simply, thoughts cause feelings and behaviours. Case in point with your character. 

Your character is your bedrock. It’s both what makes you strong as metal and as flaky as the dust in the wind. You’re likely to feel great about your own character when you “dig deep”, “hold strong”, “lean into the wind “ but feel like a loser when you “cave in”, “break down” or “ lose the plot“.

Truth is though, it’s not your character that is actually at fault, but the feeling that you assign to it that makes you feel at fault. Put it another way – unless you’re thinking about it and you’ve assigned a feeling to it then really it means nothing at all.

So when you get into a situation that involves you taking a closer look at your character, be careful not to assign too many ill feelings to what you see.

This is the crux of the matter when it comes to character building. Train yourself to know your strengths and flaws, because they are what make you human. No one is perfect. But also find a way to train yourself not to assign a feeling or emotion to all of them.

Think of your mind a little like a Facebook or YouTube algorithm. It keeps on showing you similar stuff to that which you’ve been looking at – or in this case with your mind, what you think about. Think of each thought as being a bit like the LIKE button. This tells your algorithm to give you more of the same. That’s a useful way of explaining why you tend to replay and remuniate over events again and again.

This takes some superhuman-like abilities though to avoid. As I’ve written often, I’m not always great at nailing this.

Anthony Metivier in his rather dry TED video entitled, Two Easily Remembered Questions That Silence Negative Thoughts”, (watch from about 7 minutes in!) comes up with a bit of a solution. He suggests that as your thoughts come in that might question your character, ask two simple questions.

Is that thought useful?

How does that thought behave?

Next time you’ve had a particularly crappy day at school, and everything has turned to custard and you find yourself starting to question what your character is really about, ask yourself those two questions about the thoughts that you are having:

Are these thoughts useful?

And how do they behave?

Bear with me as I explain this next bit, there is a little method in my madness here, as my Dad would’ve said!

So the other night as I lay in bed, questioning my character after a series of failings, and the thoughts began to flow in waves like they do, crashing against the rocks, I decided to run an experiment. 

Not that I have any experience in Tinder like dating apps, I decided to view my thoughts as though I did. As my thoughts flew in I purposely looked at them from a slightly removed perspective. I swiped them left or right as I asked the questions, is this thought useful, and how does it behave? If I caught myself in the negative I swiped them away, instead dwelling in the positive and useful thoughts

This little exercise might help you strengthen your character, and might well help you get a better night’s sleep at the same time.

Your character, and your understanding of it, is pretty vital. It’s unique to you, and it’s what makes you special. Worry about your character, not your reputation. Your character is who you are. Your reputation is who people think you are.

And if you can get your head around that, then that’s definitely character building.

See, I always thought there was method in my madness.

Steve

 

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Hey you!

Yes you!

The one reading this blog!

Yes you!

Now don’t be shy, I’ve got some questions for you – yes you!

I’ve always been a big advocate of the Five Ways to Wellbeing model. Probably because there’s only five to remember, but also because it is so simple and makes heaps of sense. For those of you who don’t know what I’m talking about the Five Ways to Wellbeing centres on five key thoughts: Give, Take Notice, Be Active, Connect, and Keep Learning.

Here we are in the middle of another lockdown, we’re as busy as that proverbial place of fire and grimness. Coupled with this, it’s mid-term and we’re about to head into that part of the term when everyone gets crazy tired, people lose patience and it’s hard not to feel just a little swamped. 

What better time then to Take Notice of where you are at …. Yes you!

David talked in last week’s blog about the need to “Get your figurative oxygen mask on so that you can continue to be amazing”.

Part of this process is Taking Notice of where you are currently positioned – and I’m not only talking about this from a professional point of view – but also as a human being.

This week I decided to throw in some  extra thoughts and provocations to help me personally take notice of where I’m at. Some of the answers weren’t too flash, but all in all they showed me some things in my current predicament that were missing and gave me a heads up as to what I could do next in terms of grabbing that oxygen mask and taking a bit gulp of goodness. Maybe they’ll help you too.

# When was the last time you had your blood pressure taken?

# When was the last time you went on a romantic dinner with your significant other?

# When was the last time you got away for an entire weekend with your significant other?

# When was the last time you said NO at work when normally you’d say YES?

# When was the last time you said YES at home when normally you’d say NO?

# When was the last time you felt like you were the BEST Principal/Leader in the world?

# When was the last time someone did something that made you really happy?

# When was the last time you did something for the first time?

# When was the last time you did something just for you?

# When was the last time that you went somewhere that you’ve never been before?

How do these questions make you feel? What are the keys to getting to these points?

We live in crazy, crazy uncertain times. As principals and leaders much is expected of us. There is very little out there in terms of research and study to tell us how to do it – well not without spending a whole heap of time finding the info – time that you likely don’t have.

A great friend and fellow principal of nearly 30 years standing, Grant Willocks, once said that principalship is a bit like running a marathon but with an increasingly annoying quirk. In a marathon, every five kilometres or so there is an aid station. There are toilets, and a drinks/water station. You know that they’re going to be coming up, because you’re all following the same route and you can plan where to have your rest. The difference in education is that no-one now seems to know where those aid stations are. The route is continually being changed, and the aid stations are never where and when you need them – if they’re there at all. 

Because of this, we need to have our own walking aid stations. So take time to take notice of where you are at. Use the questions above to help you take stock of you. You’re the best aid you’ve got.

Steve

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I’ve come up with a new medical term. Hell, I don’t even have a degree (although I do have a couple of useful diplomas, and some may say I have a degree in life), but this hasn’t stopped me coining a new affliction; a disease; a malady.

Don’t bother looking it up – it’s nowhere to be found in the textbooks or on Google.

It’s called Ruminoid Arthritis. 

It’s derived from two words.

Ruminoid – a term that I have made up, call it artistic license – from the word Ruminate. Originally to ruminate was the term used to describe how cows and bovines eat their food, but lately it has taken on an alternate description; the process of continually thinking about the same thoughts.

Arthritis – the term used to describe the swelling and tenderness of one or more of your joints. For the purposes of this blog piece, again using artistic license, the swelling and tenderness is likely to be in your head in the form of a headache, or your shoulders (in the form of tension) or in your other large muscle, the maximus gluteus, referred to affectionately as a pain in the ar**e.

So what are the symptoms of this new malady called Ruminoid Arthritis? 

You, yourself may already be afflicted by it.

Well, there are many including:

  • Aforementioned headaches and tense shoulders
  • Sleepless nights
  • Countless recounts and replays of professional situations
  • Continual attempts to predict outcomes without knowing the full circumstances
  • Catastrophizing
  • Overthinking
  • Ruination of family events because you’re not actually present – you’re away in your own world.

Of course it’s not new at all…. I’ve just given it a medical name to give it some sort of prestige. But it is very real.

Over the years I’ve been a big sufferer of this. It’s quite possible that I have the world record for the longest streak of rumination ever recorded. On a tramp in the mountains in 2011 I successfully (or should that read unsuccessfully) ruminated over an issue I’d been having at school for over 5 hours as I walked to the hut along a flat, boring river bed.

Around me the mountains shone like jewels in the winter sun, but I didn’t see any of it, I was too busy sorting out a professional issue in my head – over and over again; rehearsing strategy; catastrophizing what would happen if I didn’t get it right; totally missing the fact that I was on holiday and that I was in the most beautiful land in the world. By the time I got to the hut I was exhausted. And being mentally exhausted isn’t a good thing. Did I solve the professional issue – nope, and so the next day when we walked out to the car I spent another 5 hours going through it all over again.

Much of Ruminoid Arthritis is totally avoidable. The trick is to catch it before it takes off. You’ve got to recognise it when it starts and then act on it.

At the very essence of it all, ruminating is just a set of thoughts. The first important understanding to recognise is that you control your thoughts, it’s not your thoughts controlling you. If you’re a sufferer of Ruminoid Arthritis then you will habitually let your thoughts get away on you. When that happens, if you don’t act quickly and intentionally then it’s all a bit like herding cats.

The website Healthline has a list of ten tips for controlling your ruminations. Tip #1, Distract yourself, fits nicely in tandem with Tip #8 Understanding your triggers.

The site suggests that each time you find yourself ruminating, make a mental note of the situation you’re in. This includes where you are, what time of day it is, who’s around you (if anyone), and what you’ve been doing that day.

Developing ways to avoid or manage these triggers can reduce your rumination.

And then follow this with a big dollop of distraction. Look around you, choose something quickly, get up out of your seat and change your location. Go for a walk, ring a friend, anything that will take your mind away from that trigger.

Another good strategy is to inject a bit of positive stress into your life. The Mementia phone app has a great deal of useful, and free, wellbeing initiatives and strategies. Take time to read Invite more good stress into your life for ideas that will also alleviate your rumination habit.

The Mementia phone app is actually a treasure trove of goodness. You can download it from Google Play or the App store. It is New Zealand based.

One of the very best tools in the app is the “Worry Tool”. Worry is a huge trigger for Ruminoid Arthritis, and this little tool is a very quick and easy way of dealing with this trigger in an efficient manner. Use it!

I certainly haven’t cured myself of this malady, but I’m hopeful that soon it will be a thing of the past. I’m not going for world records anymore, I do have relapses, but on the whole I’m building a very useful kete of resources to keep me in the now. If you’re a Ruminoid Arthritis sufferer then you can too. 

Steve

 

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Just recently I found myself talking with a colleague about the myriad of things that we end up doing in our roles. A recent example was when I found myself sweeping water out of the junior boys’ toilets for an hour or so. Lucky me! There’s nothing like sweeping water out of the junior boys’ toilets wearing your best shoes and favorite work pants. It’s almost invigorating … not!

My colleague changed the tack of the conversation slightly, like he is want to do, and told me that occasionally he gets time to help out his caretaker by getting on the ride-on mower and cutting the lawns.

This appeared like a very generous thing for my colleague to be doing. I was instantly envious. A; because we don’t have a ride-on mower at our school and B; what he was telling me reminded me of a fond memory.

When I’d been at Teachers’ College, a few moons ago now, I’d spent my holidays pruning trees in the Hanmer State Forest or mowing lawns for the Hanmer Springs/Hurunui District Council.

These jobs enabled me to see both where I was going, and where I had been almost minute to minute.

In my current role as a principal, it’s not always easy to see where I am going, or even where I have been. There is constant “noise” related to our role that gives little opportunity to stop, pause, and look, and in turn feel good about what has been accomplished. 

“You know, I don’t really want to admit this,” I said quietly to my colleague, “but there are times in this job that I’m not really sure where I am going.”

As sharp as tack he came back with, “Go where the grass is longest – that’s what you’d do if you were still mowing lawns!”.

He had a point. Actually, he had a great point. Especially as we head into the end of the Term and the school holidays are beckoning like the sweet bastion of goodness that they are! 

The point that I’m trying to make here, is that throughout our busy, hectic lives in Term time, the grass indeed grows long in those places that we don’t look after. I’m talking specifically about our own well-being here

During Term time, as we move to cram everything into our already bulging calendars, the first thing that is missed out is our well-being. Ironically it should be the first thing that we put in, and then we should build our days around this goodness and the energy that this positive move will enable.

I’m taking it though, that you’re more likely to be like me at this point of time in the Term. The grass on your well-being lawn is overgrown and your energy levels are low.

With the energy that you do have left, take a little time to consider “going where the grass is long” during your upcoming ‘non contact/holiday’ time. Make a plan to do a number of things that you like doing; enjoy doing; and have missed doing during the last ten weeks because you ran out of hours in the day to look after yourself.

And when you are making this plan, take a step forward and look into Term three and begin to formulate a long term vision for what your well-being lawn will look like. Do this now before the reality of your job and your old habits engulf your best intentions.

Go on. Write down four things that you are going to do, just for yourself in that first week of holidays. Then another four things (yes you can repeat them!) for the second week.

Then go further and commit to a well-being plan for the Term. Make sure you have something happening for you, that’ll fill your bucket, at least once a week in your plan (and I’m not talking about the weekends) through until the next holidays.

When you get to weeks seven, eight and nine of the Term plan, double your well-being dose. Weeks seven, eight and nine are notoriously “hitting the wall” times in our professional lives, so make sure that your lawn is well and truly cut then 🙂 . 

We’d love to hear what sort of things you plan to do as you “go where the grass is long”, so please feel welcome to leave a comment below, or over on The Forty Hour Facebook page.

Steve

 

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A few years ago orange was the new black. Shortly afterwards anything that was new, exciting and a must have, was the new black. With this in mind I proclaim that in the world of leadership a thing called Stoicism is the new black. Well, I would proclaim that, if it was actually something new, but stoicism has been around since the ancients, and it turns out that any new thinking is just someone else’s old thinking from way back when.

So why is stoicism hitting the right note with me now?

Like with many ideas, I stumbled upon this. A bit like stumbling upon a $20 note fluttering in a dark alleyway just around midnight.

But I got to wondering, after David’s confronting statistics in last week’s blog, if it really is up to us to fix this, then where is a good place to start?

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I’m thinking that we’re all in a bit of a stumble in a dark alley just around midnight. So what would that $20 note look like?

And then I stumbled on something that has been a recurring idea for quite some time now. And when I say for quite some time I mean quite some time – think thousands of years!

Fellow principal, Saira Shaikh Boyle, posted this quote from Marcus Aurelius on Facebook – 

“The first thing to do – don’t get worked up. For everything happens according to the nature of all things, and in a short time you’ll be nobody and nowhere, even as the great emperors Hadrian and Augustus are now.

The next thing to do – consider carefully the task at hand for what it is, while remembering that your purpose is to be a good human being. Get straight to doing what nature requires of you, and speak as you see just and fitting – with kindness, modesty, and sincerity”

Don’t get worked up and your purpose is to be a good human being. Or don’t get upset and do the right thing!

Wow.

The Stoics, and there are quite a few famous ones (Marcus Aurelius, Seneca, Epictetus, Cato, Zeno, Cleanthes, Hecato, Musonius Rufus et al), all believed in this simple mantra:  Your purpose is to be a good human being. Do that, and only do that. 

As wikipedia describes it, eudaimonia (happiness, or blessedness) is found in accepting the moment as it presents itself, by not allowing oneself to be controlled by the desire for pleasure or by the fear of pain, by using one’s mind to understand the world and to do one’s part in nature’s plan, and by working together and treating others fairly and justly. Being a good human being.

That sounds incredibly deep, so I prefer to go back to the Don’t get upset, Do the right thing mantra. Here are some examples:

That funding from the Ministry that I was led to believe was coming, but now isn’t – well I’m not going to get upset, and I’m going to do the right thing by letting it go. I’ve pursued it long enough now, I have to move on.

That kid who has just trashed that classroom because the funding from the Ministry to adequately supervise him didn’t go far enough – well I’m not going to get worked up, and I’m going to do the right thing by making sure that supervision happens somehow even if it means it is me who does it until the Ministry meets their commitment.

That botched conversation that I led at the Board meeting that didn’t go to plan because I wasn’t quite on top of my game – well I’m not going to get upset, and I’m going to do the right thing by being better prepared next time around, or I’m going to have the courage just to say I don’t actually know at this present time.

Our roles are incredibly complicated. I think that there’s so much going on in our schools that it’s almost inhumane to think that one person, us, the principal, can be expected to be all over it all of the time. We simply can’t. And because of that, from now on I’m going to try and just do this:

Not get upset or worked up – which I read as don’t place too much negative emotion on what goes on, whatever goes on.

And

Do the right thing – which I read as do what’s good for my school and, just as importantly, do what’s good for me.

I sincerely doubt that it’s going to be easy. I’ve spent a lifetime assigning negative emotions to what I do. On the whole I’ve always tried to do the right thing, so I’m hoping that I’m almost halfway there. But not equating a plethora of emotions is a habit that I’ll need to work on – no doubt again and again. Sometimes I’ll succeed and sometimes I won’t. But I’m not going to let that upset me. I’m going to be stoic about it instead.

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Half Hour Update:

To be honest, my plan went swimmingly well for about 30 minutes. And then a left field issue led me to deal with things in a very non stoic way. Obviously this little project will take some time. Until then I’m going to follow another piece of advice

“Life is to be lived, not controlled; and humanity is won by continuing to play in face of certain defeat.” ― Ralph Ellison

Steve

 

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It’s the end of term! Time is short! And so is this week’s 40HP blog piece. The 40HP team have pushed the buttons quite a bit this term. We’ve tried to be provocative and we’ve tried to get people thinking about how they do their roles in a quest to leading a more balanced life.

So here goes a very quick precis of the top ten (in no order of importance) take outs and provoactions from our term of writings. Call it Forty Hour Principal Speed Dating if you will!

 

  1. “Give – giving is the thing that tends to fall away when you’re tired, stressed and swamped. There is an amazing amount of energy that one can receive from giving, in times of any struggle. And the best thing to give is time.”

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  1. “When was the last time you paused, off site in a peaceful place, with a piece of blank paper and considered the how? The ‘how’ reflects the time you commit to a task, the energy you give and the stress that you either accept or reject. It is the difference between Principal A spending all weekend working on their Strategic Plan, and Principal B achieving the same outcome with their team during the week. Both get the same ‘what’ done, but how they do this is completely different – this is where possibility lies.”

   The How matters (at least) as Much as The What

 

  1. “As principals and leaders we find ourselves doing a whole heap of stuff that simply isn’t our core business. We don’t ask often enough, WHY is this my job? WHY is this my rodeo?”

  The Why

 

  1. “What would you need to see or learn to change your mind about something?”

   What Do You Believe?

 

  1. “Giving yourself a little time to PAUSE BREATHE SMILE before letting your next step be dominated by a feeling or emotion maybe, just maybe will save yourself the stress of dealing with extreme behaviours, especially if they’re yours!”

 Pause Breath Smile

 

  1. “By trying to please everyone, or at least to avoid upsetting anyone, we unwittingly make ourselves  ineffective because the only way to attempt this impossibility is to consign ourselves to maintaining the status quo. (And maintaining the status quo is simply not OK in a world where we need change.)”

   Pleasing People is a Losing Strategy

 

  1. “Slow things down. Don’t over complicate what you’re doing or what you’re hoping to achieve. Yes, there is an end goal, but your method of getting there could well change depending on what you are doing now, so spend time on that. Take one tackle at a time.”

   Time to Keep it Simple

 

  1. “There’s a lot of scientific data that links your future personal misery to the amount of time that you spend enjoying the seductive embrace of the swivelly chair.”

   The Seductive Trap of the Swivelly Chair

 

  1. “Management vs Leadership? Surely they co-exist, not only side by side, but together like osmosis, flowing into one another; at times morphing into pure management while at other times being pure leadership, but more often than not just a colourful mixture of both.”

   The Management Versus Leadership Debate is Dead

 

10 . “Refusing to stay home (when you are sick) can also be a subtle disrespect of your team, because being unwilling to take a sick day on the grounds that you are irreplaceable, implies that your team is not quite up to the mark.”

   A Sick Story

Steve

 

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Last time I wrote about how we often over think our roles and that this in turn creates problems that aren’t even there. It was part of a piece about slowing things down, especially at this time of term.

Recently I was part of a discussion regarding the dilemma that we all face – when do we find time to show leadership when we seem to be in constant management mode. 

As principals, we are expected to be leaders yet we tend to spend  our lives in the day to day grind and minutiae of school existence rather than floating above it, being ultra visionary and seeing the “big picture”.

Perhaps it’s time to get off this hamster wheel of doubt created by over thinking the management vs leadership debate.

Surely they co-exist, not only side by side, but together like osmosis, flowing into one another; at times morphing into pure management while at other times being pure leadership, but more often than not just a colourful mixture of both.

Apparently it was Theodore Roosevelt who said, “people don’t care what you know until they know that you care”. This to me, is one of the real touchstones of what being a principal is all about.

Effectively this means that the people that you get paid to lead, or manage, don’t care about either of these terms. They just care that you care.

When you do enough in your school to show that you care consistently to a diverse group of humans, then that is both great leadership and great management.

There are times when you need to manage. This might feel like you’re knee deep in the veritable crappolla generated by others. But the fact that you’re there, and you’re showing you’ve got something more than a heartbeat, is in itself great leadership.

Equally there are times when you lead. And this might feel like you are able to fly above the same crapolla generated by others. But the fact that you can see what is going on with eyes like a falcon is also in itself great management.

So don’t over complicate it, and definitely don’t worry about it, you’ll be where you need to be, when you need to be, and that is good enough.

Steve

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We’re now well and truly into the busyness of Term. We’ve got seven weeks under our belts, and if you haven’t already hit the “rocky times” of the Term, then chances are you’re about to. 

“Rocky times” tend to arrive when people are tired. Patience flows out the door like the outgoing tide, and with it often goes empathy, understanding, and the ability to calm down!

It seems a perfect time then to keep things simple. Instead of speeding things up, we’d advise to slow things down. Don’t look to over complicate things because at this time of Term that often results in creating problems that aren’t even there!

For many, many years I played hockey. I started playing when I was 7 on the back field of Redcliffs school in Christchurch, on what is now the old site. And I stopped playing when I was about 44. That’s a lot of running around a field after a little white ball. There were many times when I tried to over complicate what is essentially a simple game. I did get to play some pretty big games and I represented my province, but I can only remember a couple of times when I had the game just right.

Both of these times were like slow motion; I remember intercepting a pass at half way, dribbling left past a player, and then back right again through another player. Each opposition member came to me eerily in slow motion and I found myself in that zone that you hear the top sportspeople get themselves into. Suddenly I was at the top of the goal circle and with one person to beat I launched into a shot that went high into the right hand corner of the goal. I never scored goals. But here I was scoring. Yay!

I should’ve retired there and then! I tried many times to replicate this, but invariably I’d get too excited as soon as I got the ball and then fudge the ball over the sideline or get tackled by some monster in front of me. I began to over think what I’d done to actually get that goal.

Over time, after I retired from that particular type of game, I began to see my “slow motion” revelation for what it actually was. For some reason, in those twenty seconds of glory, I was able to slow everything down around me and I took one thing at a time. I knew there was the goal in front of me, and that I wanted to score a goal, but I didn’t allow that to get in the way of seeing what was coming up in terms of the next step. (Note I didn’t say next steps plural.) And so I took one tackle at a time, and gave it the skill and patience that it needed for me to get past that particular point before moving onto the next.

I do that now in the band that I play in when we’re performing. Just one chord at a time, without getting too far ahead of myself – because if I do, then invariably I end up hitting an A instead of a C. 

And because I’m doing this, sometimes (just sometimes) I get to float into a place in the band where it’s like I’m actually listening to another band, and not playing in one. Spooky!

So this is what we suggest for this time of Term. Slow things down. Don’t over complicate what you’re doing or what you’re hoping to achieve. Yes, there is an end goal, but your method of getting there could well change depending on what you are doing now, so spend time on that. Take one tackle at a time.

I used to think I was a master of multi-tasking and that speed and stealth was the answer to everything. And to be honest, sometimes, it is. But at this time of Term, when everyone is tired, slow it all down, don’t over complicate, or over think it. Take one tackle at a time, and keep things simple.

Steve

 

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Emotions are there to help us understand the stuff we’re going through. But it’s not always helpful.

Emotions also help us convey to others what we are feeling. Jacinda Ardern being labeled by the Press as being “angry” about those not sticking to COVID-19 restriction expectations is a classic recent example.

Who knows if she is angry or frustrated, bemused, or simply pissed off, but the use of the word angry lets everyone else in on the “secret” of how she is feeling. And of the message that she wants to convey.

In this case it’s used as a warning, and quite possibly, a weapon.

There’s nothing really quite as easy and complicated as emotions. Easy because everyone has them. Complicated because no one really knows what everyone else is feeling. 

Often we think we know, and often it is assumed that we know.

Humans are notoriously bad at interpreting what their own emotions actually are let alone anybody else’s. No wonder, researchers have identified up to 27 different kinds of emotions. You’ve got to quietly wonder if the world was a simpler place when, in the past, researchers suggested there were only 6. 

This makes our role in Principalship and Leadership very tricky. We are expected to be experts in knowing what people are feeling and at the same time being able to suppress our own.

The first of these is a completely unreasonable expectation and we spend way too long spending energy on it. It comes well and truly in the “worry only about things that you have control over” camp of thought.

And the second, well, how healthy is it really suppressing your feelings over a long period of time?

Imagine in a school setting, for example my school. There are 360 students, and 40 adults running around on any given day. That’s 400 people within the confines of the school gates all running through 27 researched emotions every second of the day. As Principal you are essentially overseeing a mass of emotions. No wonder some days you’ve felt that you haven’t gotten it anywhere near right!

Of course the ability for you to have control over any one of those emotions that others have is highly debatable and negated by many other factors both externally and internally. And the extent to which these emotions are shown in behaviour also changes from person to person and situation to situation. Some seem to jump to extreme behaviours at the drop of a hat. Others face the same situation and you have to wonder if they’ve even got a pulse, let alone care.

In our language we talk about the two terms, emotions and feelings. So what’s the difference?

There definitely is a difference. I googled it and found a heap of useful references.  The one that I liked, from www.6seconds.org states the following;

“The short answer is: Time. Emotions come first, then feelings come after as the emotion chemicals go to work in our bodies. Then moods develop from a combination of feelings.

Emotions are chemicals released in response to our interpretation of a specific trigger.  It takes our brains about 1/4 second to identify the trigger, and about another 1/4 second to produce the chemicals.  By the way, emotion chemicals are released throughout our bodies, not just in our brains, and they form a kind of feedback loop between our brains & bodies. They last for about six seconds – hence the name of our organization.

Feelings happen as we begin to integrate the emotion, to think about it, to “let it soak in.”  In English, we use “feel” for both physical and emotional sensation — we can say we physically feel cold, but we can also emotionally feel cold.  This is a clue to the meaning of “feeling,” it’s something we sense.  Feelings are more “cognitively saturated” as the emotion chemicals are processed in our brains & bodies. Feelings are often fueled by a mix of emotions, and last for longer than emotions.”

https://www.6seconds.org/2017/05/15/emotion-feeling-mood/

I like this because it helps me understand a process that I have been working on recently.

It’s quite simple, and it might sound just a little odd. It has a technical name that at the time of writing completely eludes me – sometimes we don’t need to know the official name, but the strategy is currently working for me.

It runs a bit like this. When I have an emotion I also have a sensation. That’s normal, and that’s what I understand to be the emotion chemicals being released in my body. I guess in many ways it’s your body saying, WARNING WARNING!

This is where I PAUSE. And I go searching just for that sensation, and I let myself feel it as it waves through my body. For me it feels like it starts in my head and then builds up in my shoulders and down through my body (for some strange reason I also feel it in my ears!). I told you this was a bit weird! The key is just to concentrate on that physical feeling; on that wave. Actually feel the sensation.

I didn’t know that these waves lasted for about 6 seconds as the website says, but if I timed it then that would be about right. So, PAUSE and feel that wave. Don’t give it a feeling name like anger or frustration or one of the other countless names. When you name it you’re just giving it a language term for you to understand and then that takes you on a completely different tangent. If the wave starts again, roll with it and just concentrate on feeling that. This might happen once, or it might happen multiple times. But the key is not to name it, just physically feel it.

I used to get these waves a lot on a Sunday evening before the week was about to start, or before an important staff meeting. And to be honest, I still do, but I’ve been able to lesson the intensity of the waves over time. This has helped me pinpoint what is actually bugging me.

During my PAUSE I then give myself time to consider the trigger – e.g. thinking about the important staff meeting; thinking about starting the new week. Identifying the trigger without thinking about how that makes me feel means I can get to the source of the wave without any baggage. Yes I can tell myself, “oh, I’m feeling something about that staff meeting ….. I wonder why that is”.

And then I BREATH. Deep deep breaths, and hold them in. (Don’t forget to exhale, or you might have another problem on your hands, lol)

Now I identify the emotion or the feeling. It might not actually be the anger that you originally thought it was.

And then I SMILE. The smile at the end is important. You’re telling yourself you’ve got this.

The process might take all of 10 to 15 seconds.

You can’t do this for everyone else in your school, and let’s be honest, many will think you’re a weirdo for even mentioning it, but you can do it for yourself. 

However, this gives you time to think a bit more rationally and logically before deciding what to do next.

It’s your emotions and feelings that give you the impetus to do something. You may still feel angry, but take time to consider how angry you are and what’s the best way for everyone around you for you to show or share that you feel angry? 

This article isn’t about suppressing your feelings. It’s far from that. You can’t beat biology! It’s the same with positive feelings as well. Take time to enjoy the feeling and sensation when you’ve got those positive emotions running as well.

What I’m saying is if you give yourself a little time PAUSE BREATHE SMILE before letting your next step be dominated by a feeling or emotion then maybe, just maybe you’ll be able to save yourself the stress of dealing with extreme behaviours, especially if they’re yours!

Steve

 

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Last week David wrote a great piece on the How being as important as the What.

It’s a piece that has resonated with me a lot and is really the core of the Forty Hour Principal Project.

To put no finer point to it, it’s the HOW that makes the difference between spending a forty hour week at work or spending an eighty hour week.
Get your HOW all aligned correctly and you can say a welcome, “well hello!” to the other part of your life.

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Of course, your HOW  can rightly stuff everything up though.

Case in point was a couple of days ago. On Monday, while Auckland grappled with Level 3, the rest of us woke up to Level 2. Restrictions at Level 2 are nothing like Level 3. I arrived at school nice and early at 7am to get things in place. I helped the Caretaker organise the hand washing stations and get the registration forms all sorted. I wrote a memo to all staff. And I promptly forgot to look at the Level 2 Plan that we had, and promptly forgot to make sure it was under the noses of everyone in the school.

Thinking my HOW was all organised, including a healthy assumption that common sense would prevail for anything else, I left the school at 10am and headed to a Kahui Ako course.

When I arrived back at school at 2:30pm there were agitated people. Their agitation, on the face of it, was pretty low level for me. I didn’t feel it to be the problem they did – was PMP going ahead in Level 2?, were Parent Helpers allowed in the school during the reading programme in Level 2? and were we meant to be taking our 5 and 6 year olds out to the gate at 2:55pm under Level 2?.

My HOW had been at a level where I assumed that people knew this, even though it had been way back in October when we’d last seen Level 2 restrictions. My HOW had also assumed that these little finer points would be just that – finer points.

For some though it wasn’t. They wanted to do a great job, and lack of information made them feel just a little crap. Their HOW was to let me know that!

My HOW had let them down. And so I now had to rewrite my next HOW to make sure that things didn’t happen this way next time we head into Level 2. Simple Communication 101.

I’m not going to spend a lot of time beating myself up about this, but communication in things like heading into Level 2 are pretty important. Next time I’ll make sure our plan is printed off for everyone to see and I won’t leave it sitting in the Google Drive hoping someone will remember it’s there.

HOW we do things, obviously is key. Of course we could probably spend all year adding little bits and pieces to this thought. I mean isn’t WHO and WHEN also important. Well, yes, but arguably they’re linked to your HOW.

However, one word that sits a little to the left though, (or right dependent on which way you’re facing!) is WHY.

WHY it has to happen is something again, especially WHY does it have to be you?

As principals and leaders we find ourselves doing a whole heap of stuff that simply isn’t our core business. We don’t ask often enough, WHY is this my job? WHY is this my rodeo?

In particular I’m thinking of those times when colleagues and staff members decide that a problem they have is a problem that you need to solve. So, maybe, after the What, there’s a brief period of time when we should pause and reflect WHY.

Why is this your problem?
Why is this your issue to sort out?
Why is this something that needs your attention straight away?
Why is this your monkey?

For a lot of the time we are duped into doing something by our own mind. Dr. Libby Weaver affectionately calls this “The Invisible Load”. We do things because we perceive that it is expected of us, or we are guilt tripped into it, or that others will think badly of us if we don’t do it the way they want it to be done. Our Invisible Load stops us from asking the WHY question completely.

Of course once the WHY is all sorted, you can jump into the HOW, feet first.

In my situation it really was my problem. I am the leader of the school, and so I needed to front up and say whoops I got this wrong and it won’t happen this way next time. Next time my WHY will be simple, not my issue to sort out, because everyone will have the plan in front of them and everyone will already be prepared.

Steve

 

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21 things to have a decent crack at in 2021:

Around the turn of the new year, every new year, there seems to be an inordinate amount of self help lists published. Invariably the number of things on the lists tend to correspond to the amount of years in the new year. For example in 2007 there seemed to be lots of lists that had 7 recipes to change your life, and 7 types of people to avoid. In 2010 the lists centred on 10.

2021 was no different … there were lists of 21 things to do everywhere! Twenty-one! What the heck!

The problem with such lists is that somewhere along the line you have to be accountable to them – like New Year’s resolutions – and this often just ends up in tears and a gloomy sense of failure.

This year I thought I’d give the list a bit of the old Forty Hour Principal work over. Intentionally though, I’ve given the heading a bit of an out. I’m encouraging myself to give these a “decent crack”, in the knowledge that life has an annoying habit of coming along and bowling even the best plans out of the park.

So here we go:

  1. Give – taken straight out of the Mental Health Foundation’s Five ways to Wellbeing. Giving is the thing that tends to fall away when you’re tired, stressed and swamped. There is an amazing amount of energy that one can receive from giving, in times of struggle. And the best thing to give is time.
  2. Be Active – also from the Mental Health Foundation’s Five ways to Wellbeing. Being Active isn’t just about getting out for a run. Being active is also about getting involved and getting out of the office. The school is full of opportunities to do this daily.
  3. Connect  -take time to connect with fellow humans on all sorts of different levels. Get into the playground and find out what’s going on. 
  4. Take Notice – and be appreciative of the great stuff going on.
  5. Keep Learning – this year I’m going to focus my learning on Te Reo. I’m tired of feeling embarrassed at my inadequate attempt to engage in the wonderful indigenous language of Aotearoa New Zealand.
  6. Do 10,000 steps a day bare minimum – yes it is related to Being Active, that’s for sure. But this one is here to keep me honest. And if I can’t do 10,000 steps daily, then I’ll average 10,000 steps daily over a week. Keep moving!
  7. Rearrange my office – I’ve done this already. I moved my desk, and I’m amazed. Suddenly I have an entirely different view of many things. Instead of looking at a wall for years, I can now look out a window. Why didn’t I do this sooner! Give it a go!
  8. Let go – or at the very least, strive to let go of crap sooner than I have been. I tend to carry on with things, ruminating and worrying way beyond their use by date. 2021 I’m going to actively let go of this baggage way earlier than in the past! I’ll let you know how I get on.
  9. Take on a personal project outside of school and really commit to it. Really get passionate about it. – I was inspired by a Principal in the US recently who took on a second job stacking shelves at night. The money he earnt he donated back to those in need in the community. I’m not going anywhere near doing this! But I am going to find a passion that is just for me, and I’m going to invest time into making it come alive.
  10. Have daily “Principal Office Door is closed” time
  11. Follow Ralph Waldo Emerson’s advice religiously; “Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; begin it well and serenely with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense ….”
  12. Follow Ernie my cat’s advice religiously; “Cherish today as today. Not as the today after yesterday or as the day before tomorrow.”
  13. When stuck, be bold and move from Green Eggs and Ham thinking to The Cat in the Hat thinking.
  14. Hongihongi te wheiwheia – Face with courage those unseen things that can create worry, anxiety and fear. Have all difficult decisions and difficult conversations completed by Thursday afternoon. Don’t put off things that need sorting, get it done early and leave Friday for good stuff. 
  15. Find something every day at school that I love doing at school – and do it. 
  16. Language – use language that is appropriate to the situation when things aren’t going so well. Things are seldom “a disaster”, “terrible”, “the worst thing to happen”. In fact nothing ever is.
  17. Keep my desk tidy – at time of writing I’ve done four days of a tidy, organised desk. This comes after 31 years of a untidy, bombastic like organised desk. 
  18. Seek refuge in this thought by blogger David Cain“As hard as life is, the only refuge you need, or ever have, is your own will to do what you can within your own sphere. That’s all you need to attend to, all you need to think about, all you need to get good at”
  19. Bite size – take on challenges in bite sized bits. No one eats a Big Mac burger in one bite. Apply this thinking to challenges. Break it down.
  20. Enjoy the little things – not all that glitters is gold. Most of the stuff that glitters is right in front of you and you don’t have to look far. Schools are full of glitter – both metaphorically and literally!
  21. Leave it at the gate – give myself permission to leave school matters at the gate when I go home. Home is for home stuff, it is for family and the rest of your life. If I need to do school stuff at home then I’ll do it on my own terms, and in my own time. School will always be there tomorrow. 

And an extra for experts – 

ENJOY part two – we’re in a role that is a privilege and an honour. We daily make differences in people’s lives. That’s an amazing thing to wake up to each day. It can be a burden, but it doesn’t have to be. Get amongst it!

What would your 21 be?

Steve

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When I worked in the Hanmer Springs State Forest in the late 80’s I knew at the end of the day where I had been and what I had done. I could look back at a row of pines and see a line of freshly pruned trees. It was that simple.

It was the same when I had a job mowing lawns. I could see exactly where I had been at the end of the day and how good my lawn cutting had been.

When you’re a leader it’s not always so easy to see the success in your day especially during these crazy times of Madvember!

So how do we know if anything we do actually makes a difference? How do we know if we’ve been successful?

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Success of course comes in all sorts of different ways and means different things for different people.

Take just one child for instance. He or she might be one of those challenging kids that we all seem to have. 

From this child’s perspective success might be being asked to play in a game with someone else at playtime or lunchtime.

From a learning assistant’s perspective with this same child, success might be getting that same child to find his reading book in the bottom of his bag and then getting him to read to the second page.

From a teacher’s perspective it might be seeing that same child get through the day without distracting four others, or biting a fifth.

From the Learning Team Leader’s perspective it might be not hearing about that particular child’s outbursts and having to deal with a frustrated and stressed out teacher.

From the principal’s perspective it might be not having to contact the Board Chairperson and letting them know that you’ve stood down that child for the umpteenth time.

Or maybe it might simply be sticking a principal award sticker on a piece of smudged work, proudly presented by the same child.

And from the Board perspective it might be being told, “thank you, but we don’t need any extra monetary support” for this child in the playground at intervals and lunchtimes.

Chances are that it’s that first perspective of success, the one of the child’s, and the one that appears the most simple, that has the most impact. Get that measure of success right and you’ll inevitably see a whole heap of other successes ripple from it. It’ll be then that you’ll know that you’ve made a difference.

Steve

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I wonder if, after all the dust has settled, and we take a look back at 2020, that we’ll look back on the year as one of fantastic personal growth. No doubt it’s been a crap year. We’ve all been pushed to the ends of our collective tethers. There have been times when we’ve felt exhausted and beyond capable of getting through another day let alone another week or term. But yet, we have. 

We have gotten beyond it. And we’ve done some pretty inspirational things, often off the hoof, with the words “it is what it is” whispering in our ears.

Chances are we’ll look back, (maybe not tomorrow, or even after new years) sometime in the future and think – wow! well done! What an extraordinary thing we have all done during this year of craziness and uncertainty.

As you do in times of craziness, when you’re looking for that long lost favourite pen, or a rogue lolly in the bottom drawer of your desk, you come across something long forgotten. I needed a sugar fix and I knew that there was a toffee somewhere in the bottom of my desk when I came across a piece of work I’d started about three years ago.

At the time I’d spent a while reading and researching a number of Learning Models and Growth Stages in the hope of finding something inspirational to use in my school to get my teachers thinking. There are literally thousands of such models in the world. At the same time I’d found myself reading Dr Seuss’ Green Eggs and Ham to a bunch of five year olds. They’d never heard this classic before. They loved it!

I began to wonder what a learning model might look like if it was based on Dr Seuss. I worked on the idea for quite a while, and then it sat quietly in the bottom of my drawer waiting for it’s time. Stuck to the edge of this paper was a toffee, and so on that fateful afternoon, looking for that sugar fix, I found not only a toffee but also this … My Learning Model.

As I mentioned before, 2020 has been pretty crazy. As I read through my Dr Seuss inspired Learning Model I could see many parallels to the journey that we’ve all been on this year.

I won’t be writing again until the new year, so take your time with this one. As you’re reading this, think about your own journey in 2020 both professionally and personally. Find a quiet time to consider how you might use your own amazing growth to leap into 2021.

My Learning Model is inspired by the works of Dr. Seuss and P.D. Eastman

 

Where to begin

“Oh, the places you’ll go” is the last book that Dr. Seuss wrote before he died in 1990. Although it’s his last book, it’s the first part of my learning model. Because education is all about acronyms, let’s use  MyLM for my learning model from now on.

“Oh the places you’ll go” is the perfect umbrella for MyLM. It over-arches the rest of the components in rich, thick strokes of positivism and hope. That’s what learning should be. Anything else and we might as well stay in bed.

 

“You have brains in your head,

You have feet in your shoes, 

You can steer yourself 

any direction you choose.”

You’re on your own, And you know what you know. 

AND YOU are the guy who’ll decide where to go”

What an invitation! What a challenge! That’s what our learning should be.

 

But there are warnings too:

However that’s what learning should be all about too. There is room to fail; room for false starts and u-turns. Ultimately the whole experience is a journey.

MyLM has an umbrella, or backdrop, of positivism. 

It yells out for everyone to hear “KID, YOU’LL MOVE MOUNTAINS!” 

And although the word kid suggests that this is a child like proposition, it doesn’t need to be at all. MyLM outlines stages of learning or growth that can equally be attributed to children or adults. 

Learning, of course, has never really been a linear thing. It’s never been a straight line where you get to start at A and end at Z. 

We all come into things, (even new things) with prior learnings, so it’s hard to find an A for start.

And then the journey from here to there is fraught with successes, mis-steps, backward flips and  challenges. All in all it’s an opportunity, and a great one at that.

However, if I was pressed to simplify this into some sort of progression, then I’d do it this way, so stick with me and read on.

And I’d call them Growth Stages, and I’d suggest there are four simple ones to describe.

Ultimately progress through these stages is like a curly ball of string. It’s never just a line, and you constantly find yourself flicking back and forward through these curls and twirls. Sometimes this happens as part of a natural progression, and sometimes this happens out of necessity. 

Often it’s messy and always, it is what it is.

Growth Stage One  

ARE YOU MY MOTHER

The first stage of MyLM is what I like to call the “Are You My Mother?” stage.

It’s the only stage that is not actually written by Dr. Seuss, instead by P.D. Eastman one of Dr. Seuss’s contemporaries. Originally the book came out in 1960. I certainly remember having it on my bookcase when I was growing up.

Are You My Mother tells the story of a little baby chick who hatches while her mother is out looking for food. She then spends most of the story going from place to place, animal to animal in search of her mother.

This is the whole point of this learning stage. During learning we spend a whole heap of our time in this mode. It’s not necessarily because we stay at this point for long periods, but more because we find ourselves heading back to this point many times during our learning journeys.

It’s a stage where you find yourself looking for constant support. It’s that time when you as the learner may actually hope that someone will do the learning for you. It’s a time when safety is paramount, and finding a supportive teacher/mentor/mother-father figure to work through the new, strange, frankly scary aspects of whatever is ahead of you is vital. Basically you’re simply searching for your mother!

Think of learning to work with MSExcel for the first time. Or learning to drive a car; or when you are working on a new task for the first time in a new job. Frustrations abound, patience erodes and there are times when you just pray that someone will simply do the job for you. 

Does this sound familiar? It’s just like the book really.

You spend your time trying to learn a new skill, but your patience is pushed. You find yourself questioning the purpose of this new skill. Is it all worth it you ask?  

It’s possible that you will spend a whole heap of time actually looking. Procrastination may raise its ugly head and if it does then this leads to extended times in the Are you my mother stage.

Questions about your ability to actually succeed nag away at you.

Finally a sense of perseverance develops and things start to move forward.

We all go through this stage at some point. For younger children this might not be a place that they stay at for long. But as we grow older and we’re feeling the pressure of change hanging over us, we find ourselves re-visiting our “Are you my mother” stage quite frequently, if only for a short time during periods of stress!

It’s not a stage that is worth hanging around in for long, and so my advice to you is to stop looking for your mother and get on with it!

So what are some of the key features of this learning stage?

Support

This stage is all about the process of finding support. The baby bird is looking constantly for her mother. This is the only support they need and that they want. It’s a stage where the learner just really wants their mother to do the learning for them.

Finding your way

Are you my mother is a tricky Learning Stage to be in. Although it’s a time where the learner is essentially finding their way, it’s also often a stage where it’s time to take stock. For some it may be easier just to wait for Mother than to take the risk of moving on, and for others waiting for Mother might just be the resting time that they need. Either way, reality dictates that Mother is not always there to make things easier for you, so don’t wait here for long!

Learning to learn

Are you my Mother can also be the time when a learner is looking for someone to help them up to the “Green Eggs and Ham” stage. It’s not unreasonable to believe that some older learners take time to find their mentors. It only gets unreasonable when the role of mentor really is just an extension of Mother.

Growth Stage Two

GREEN EGGS AND HAM

There is a lot in common with Stage 1 and Stage 2. Much of the time in Stage 2 you will find yourself just wishing that someone would come along and do the learning for you. There are times when you think, “Nope I don’t like this”. 

You find yourself flipping back to the Are You My Mother stage, hoping that this learning thing will simply go away. But the perseverance you developed in Stage 1 encourages you to stick with the task just a little longer.

You keep at it, grinding away, looking to have your green eggs and ham in such a way that is actually palatable.

Learning at this stage is very much a practicing sort of thing.

The more you work, or practice, on a particular skill the easier it actually becomes.

At the risk of sounding ageist I do wonder if this stage is very much an older learners type of stage.

Younger learners may spend a little bit of time here. But when you are younger, learning something new isn’t necessarily a chore, or isn’t coloured in any negative fashion by prior learning experiences. 

Furthermore for most young learners learning isn’t even considered an option. Instead it’s just the natural by-product of everyday life. You don’t see a lot of “Do you want to try my iPhone 11?”, “NO I don’t, not in a box, not with a fox, not with a  goat….”

Therefore you’ll find the Green Eggs and Ham stage more often in older learners who have a choice … or at least think they have a choice, about acquiring new skills or ideas. For those of us with a slightly stubborn temperament, Green Eggs and Ham might be a stage we spend a lot of our learning time in!

For those of us who suffer from the “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks” syndrome, you’ll spend much of your time flitting between Are you my Mother? and Green Eggs and Ham stages.

International blogger David Cain ([email protected], http://www.raptitude.com/) writes of our past experiences and how they can affect our learning in a very Green Eggs and Ham like manner.

Cain suggests that “we tend to think the person we are is the person we’ve been so far. The person you used to be still tells you what to do”.

We unconsciously decide if we like or dislike something based on our experiences. Some of these experiences can be decades old, and yet still play significant roles in how we see the current world that we live in.

As Cain writes in his blog, The Person you used to be still tells you what to do

“This happens a lot. Much of what you do today (or don’t) was decided by the person you were years ago, a person with less life experience and less insight into your values. Your identity – as in who you are to yourself, and who you are to others – changes throughout your life, and the person most qualified to be deciding how you spend your time now is always going to be who you are today.

But we often don’t work like that. We work from conclusions made years ago, usually with no idea of when we made them, or why. Most of our standing impressions are probably based on a single experience – one instance of unpleasantness or disappointment that turned you off of entire categories of recreational activities, lifestyles and creative pursuits, forever.

A conclusion is not the point at which you find the truth, it’s only the point at which the exploring stops. We do it quickly and unconsciously and the effects are long-lasting. In no time you’re left with a standing belief, a sort of surrogate “fact” in your head, left over from a time when you didn’t know any better. “

These particular standing beliefs have more of a profound effect on our experienced older learners than our younger ones. Maybe this is because older learners spend their new learning time stating;

“I would not like them here or there. I would not like them anywhere. I do not like green eggs and ham. I do not like them, Sam-I -am.”

So how do we counter the Green Eggs and Ham stage? How do we move forward if we are still tied to experiences from the past?

Cain suggests, “Let the phrases “not my thing” or “not for me” become red flags to you whenever you hear yourself say them. How old was the person who decided that? Was it even a decision, or just an emotional reaction? How much do you really know about it?

Ask, or otherwise know that your lifestyle is still being directed by a younger and less experienced version of you who, frankly, doesn’t know you at all.”

He’s got a point. But it’s not easy. Be open to your new learning, give it all a go! Find your inner four or five year old if need be! 

If you can get past this stage, then you’re about to embark into the magical world of the Cat in the Hat Comes back stage. Now that’s worth purrrrrsevering with.

So what are some of the key features of this growth stage?

Guided

The Green Eggs and Ham Learning Stage is all about guided learning. It’s about someone, whether it’s a mentor/coach, or a teacher, or a colleague or a friend, working alongside you and helping you along a path. They guide you in a direction that may initially be foreign to you. Or distasteful!

The key is that although you are being directed in your learning, ultimately you are building understandings that will allow you to take control in the future.

Perseverance

Sam in Green Eggs and Ham needs a medal for his perseverance. He just never gives up. As a mentor Sam has a role to persevere with the learner, asking questions and opening the learner up to new understandings and learning.

It’s so much easier just to give up and to throw any perseverance under a bus. But imagine if that had happened in the book – well it just wouldn’t have made a great story!

Scaffolding

In the book Sam helps guide the questioning. He scaffolds the learning for the learner by asking key questions. By doing this he also models all sorts of possibilities. He’s opening up idea streams into the learners mind!

Resilience

Resilience is very much a tool needed to be practiced by the learner. Essentially it plays hand in glove to perseverance. As a learner when you’re at this stage if you’re not resilient, and you’re not prepared to persevere then you may as well just stay in the “Are you my mother” stage.

Lighting the Fire

Sam sets the scene for the next learning stage here. By the end of the story he has well and truly lit the fire of learning when he hears; “I do so like Green Eggs and Ham, Thank-you! Thank-you! Sam-I-am”

Growth Stage Three  

THE CAT IN THE HAT COMES BACK

The Cat in the Hat Comes Back was first published in 1958. In anyone’s language that is certainly a while ago now.

Its’ message today is still as bright, colourful, filled with possibilities and mischievousness as it was when it first arrived in our bookstores all those years ago.

Imagine learning as being bright, colourful, filled with possibilities and mischievousness. It sounds like a perfect cocktail for exploring and understanding the world all around us. It’s certainly intoxicating.

Stage Three in My Learning Model, is The Cat in the Hat Comes Back stage. This is the stage where anything can happen, and it most probably will.

The boundaries of learning are at times difficult to see; but it’s a stage of possibilities and wonderment, of experimentation and passion.

Helpfully, the story starts almost where Stage Two, Green Eggs and Ham finishes. In The Green Eggs and Ham stage we’ve come accustomed to the idea that learning can actually be tasteful, and that we have some choice about it. However there is still work to be done and sometimes our learning takes us back to the Are You My Mother Stage. 

But don’t be fooled, this Learning Stage is about to get wild.

Think of your learning at this stage as the Cat in the Hat. You’re brimming with confidence, you’re full of ideas, you’re able to brainstorm some of the most absurd solutions and, most importantly, you’re willing to give it a go. And just like that, the world opens up for you!

Your imagination is encouraged to go anywhere and everywhere, and just for a moment you too can have your cake and eat it!

 

But beware there are caveats.

This is the learning stage of trial and error with no shame in failure. But it’s not the real world.

The Cat in The Hat Comes Back stage is a time of safety nets, scaffolding and oxygen tanks! Yes you can get excited about an outpouring of creative tendencies, but at the end of the day it’s all within the safety of the lab.

It’s where you can leave the anxieties about your failings or learnings, and mis-understandings at the pool edge. It’s where you can dive into the pool of possibilities without worry of lack of skills.

And although it’s not essential, it can be even better if there’s more than one of you in the process.

In many ways this is the growth stage that we most often find ourselves at the Forty Hour Principal Project. David and I get to fling ideas around, test them in our blog weekly, and then head back to the “reality” of our schools!

The Cat in the Hat Comes Back learning stage is perfect for working alongside others. Ideas build on ideas that build on ideas.

Learning happens not only as a result of study, but also in trial and error and experimentation. Growth comes as a result of sharing problems, ideas, prior knowledge and solutions, with those around you.

The Cat in the Hat Comes Back stage revels in the collaboration of many minds. Your idea may not be the one that is the final solution, but it will play an important part in  the process that will add greatly to your learning.

Call it your own VOOM! moment if you will.

So what are some of the key features of this growth stage?

Curiosity

Curiosity is the thing that gets us interested. It’s the spark that ignites and then fuels our learning.

Play

We don’t spend enough time playing during learning. This stage encourages more play. The Cat in the Hat certainly doesn’t appear to be particularly time constrained, and although reality has it we are all time poor, this Learning Stage says loud and clear “Make the time to Play”.

Creativity

The Cat in The Hat Stage is all about being creative. Essentially it’s giving the learner a sense of freedom to give things a go without the restraints of feeling like a failure. Once you get that feeling out of your system you can start to be as creative as you want. In the book, The Cat in the Hat certainly wasn’t constrained by lack of ideas. He was very creative in solving the problem.

Collaboration

Collaboration helps make big problems feel small. This Learning Stage allows people to look for solutions together without a sense of hierarchy. Remember the old addage, Together Everyone Achieves More (T.E.A.M)

Using old skills for new things

People come into new situations with a host of prior experiences and knowledge. All of this is useful in new learning. The only time when this isn’t useful is if the learner is blinkered to historical solutions or attitudes. Attitudes are crucial here. If you’re still stuck in “Are you my Mother” ways then nothing will come easily. Loosen up, but don’t throw the baby out with the bath water!

Using new skills for old things

The Cat in the Hat Comes Back encourages new eyes for old problems. Science is finding new ways of doing things all the time and often helps us understand old problems or issues in a new light.

Individual Inquiry

The Cat in the Hat Comes Back encourages the learner to look at their learning as a journey. During the story the Cat in the Hat tried many solutions in a personal journey of inquiry.

Team Inquiry

Team Inquiry allowed the Cat in the Hat to work with a number of other cats (26 in total! but don’t let that stop you!) to find a solution.

Safety

This growth stage isn’t reality though. This is where we ask questions, experiment, play, consider, debate and test our understandings all within a safe environment, or as safe as possible. It’s where you can get a grazed knee, or a bloody nose and still come back and score a goal.

No worries

We live in a time where we all take ourselves incredibly seriously. We’re open to judgement on all sorts of levels from multiple directions. The Cat in the Hat solves the problem of the rings in the bath with little worry about judgement. We don’t see him posting on Facebook or Instagram and gauging his success on the number of likes he has received. The only worry that he has is the problem of the rings in the bath. He worries about one thing at a time and ultimately triumphs! VOOM!

Growth Stage Three      – IF I RAN THE ZOO

Stage Four of this Growth Model is based on Dr. Seuss’ 1950 picture book, 

“If I Ran The Zoo”.

This stage is the ultimate learning stage. It’s what we all aspire to. It’s the stage where our learning is finally put into real use. It’s where we can take our new found skills and ideas and let our imagination do the rest in what’s affectionately known as “The Real World.”

“If I ran the zoo, ” said young Gerald McGrew,

I’d make a few changes. That’s just what I’d do …”

I’m picking that Dr. Seuss called his hero Gerald McGrew on purpose. McGrew is a great name for someone in this growth stage who just grows and grows and grows.

In many ways this can be seen as a generational learning stage e.g the older you get, the more experiences you have, and the more you know how to deal with these new things. 

However this doesn’t have to have anything to do with age. Any age can learn the new tricks and ideas in the Cat in the Hat Comes Back stage, and any age can put those learnings into some form of reality like “If I ran the zoo”.

If I Ran the Zoo is the stage of turning possibilities into something a bit more concrete. It’s at this stage where we take our play and give it some new function – in a real world.

And although it’s a stage of lots of potential for the learner, and lots of potential to help many people, it has also the potential for a few doubters and criticisms.

The real world is full of people with opinions. It’s jam packed with people who are also trying to run their own zoos. It’s full of people who are certain that the way they run their zoo is the only way to run a zoo.  There’s plenty of potential for conflict.

But keep positive. This is the “keep it moving forward” learning stage. It’s about letting your learning help you find a niche in your world. The key words here are YOUR WORLD.

Your world is your zoo and your zoo is your world.

So what are some of the key features of this growth stage?

Reality

This growth stage is reality. It’s out of the sandpit and into the real world. There are steps forward and steps backwards, and any decision made has a consequence. 

Your context

The reality is that this is your personal context. It’s your challenge and therefore your opportunity. You get to reap what you sow. There will be those who are keen to knock you. And there will be those scary times when you find yourself comparing your own reality with the highlight reels of others. However the reality is that their context is not the same as yours. And most importantly your own highlight reel is as kick arse as anyone else’s!

Your world

You share your world with 9 billion other people who also live in this world. It’s a bit hard to get away from this important point. And so whatever you do, whatever your particular zoo looks like, it needs to run in harmony with those of others. Learn to give, learn to connect, learn to take notice and your world will be even more richer.

Lifelong Learning

The If I ran the zoo stage goes hand in hand with the Cat in the Hat stage. It’s called Life Long Learning, and the sooner you get to enjoy flipping from each stage the better.

Steve

 

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It’s been a helluva year!

Suffice to say 2020 has been a year right out of the box. It’s certainly been full of challenges, frustrations, false dawns and even a bit of heartache. In New Zealand we find ourselves in a position that life is pretty much back to normal, but there’s always an uncanny shadow that lurks in the background.

For the rest of the world, lives have been upended and life as we once knew it, with the freedoms that we once had, has been severely altered.

People are stressed, tired, aggrieved and over it. With all this uncertainty comes a change in the way people behave. People are anxious and their patience levels and stress points are all skewed. 

Earlier this year we described a normal school term like a race. With weeks 7-9 being akin to “the wall” in a half marathon. At that point injuries manifest themselves, doubts arise and take over, and our patience for anything other than the plan goes out the window. I’m beginning to wonder if “the wall” has come early this term and that this is a direct result of the uncertainties of our new world. All the crap is with us already! And that “the wall” is likely to be with us for weeks to come.

The places in our lives where we used to find gold to get us through this time aren’t always attainable.

But it’s not all grim. Not all that glitters is gold. It’s important to see this as a positive. There is a lot that can be found in our lives (both professionally and personally) which although isn’t gold, still glitters. That’s a great thing to keep hold of.

I was reminded of this the other day when I watched one of my Year 7 and 8 classes perform a play. Out the front of the stage performed the gold class students; words carefully learnt, movements choreographed to the finest, perfect detail. At the back of the stage was a group of children, equally important, looking slightly awkward, but nonetheless as authentic as the “stars” in front. I couldn’t help but watch them throughout the whole show. They might not be gold, but heck in their own way, they were pretty close – maybe even diamond like! They glittered in their awkwardness, and they yelled (quietly) “we’re here too, and hear us roar!”. The loudest of my applause was for those kids. Their awkwardness was beautiful, but the fact that they were up there giving it their all was the stunning glitter.

A few months ago I found myself wailing at my perceived injustice of the appraisal process I had walked into. A small number of staff enjoyed the anonymity of a 360 review to let me know of my shortcomings. Their written words stung. There were some savage comments. It took me a couple of weeks to get my head around the fact that this feeling wasn’t shared by everyone, and certainly not the vast majority. However my confidence was hit, and so I had to find a way back. 

I didn’t do this intentionally to begin with, but I found myself stopping and looking at things. First it seemed like a mechanism just to get my breath. But I began to see things in my school that I hadn’t really appreciated before; a couple of five year olds holding hands in friendship, a kid picking up a piece of rubbish that wasn’t his, a thirteen year old helping a six year old with a grazed a knee, the laughter of a group of friends, the insistent crackle of communication from one our ASD kids.  

These weren’t the “gold glitter” things that we are forced to look for in strategic plans. They weren’t the accelerated learnings or surplus budgets or even a mythical wish that everyone would support me in a 360 review. Nope, these were every day glitter that comes and goes. And they are simply beautiful. 

Our lives are full of glitter that isn’t gold. Don’t let the uncertainties of our time, whatever that looks like, get you down. The secret is to take time to look for the other glitter. This involves getting up and getting out. Get away from your screens and go looking. It’s everywhere if you take a chance and open your eyes.

Steve

 

Post note …. If you like your inspiration via music listen to this! 

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